The liberating power of creating boundaries for yourself...
…and why this must precede setting boundaries with others.
Setting boundaries, at first, may make you feel like you're going to die.
Because deep down, most of us want people to like us, especially the people closest to us (these are usually the people we need to set boundaries with the most.
Ahhhh, take a deep breath...there's light at the end of this tunnel.
I guarantee you, once you do set that boundary, although it may seem scary and feel a little painful, what comes after this is an unwavering trust in yourself...a sense of accomplishment and respect for yourself...and ultimately happiness.
Why happiness though?
There was once a woman who had issues in her relationship with her man. They fought over the craziest things, and she never knew when they would stop fighting, when they would get to the root of their actual issues. One day, she went to her therapist who pointed out some obvious stuff that she'd heard a million times, but this time, something else clicked... She realized, all the things she was asking from her man, she wasn't even doing for herself.
Like, who does that?
(Most, if not all of us actually).
We need to fill our own cup first...and when we expect others to treat us in certain ways, when we're not treating ourselves that way, things can get really messy and fights start happening.
So this woman went home and journaled and prayed to God to show her how to give herself all the things she was wanting from her man, to show her the way to wisdom, to show her how to establish a higher sense of value, respect and love for herself. This is when she learned the value of setting boundaries first, with herself.
WOW, what? I can set boundaries with myself?
Yes, maam. And that's exactly what we're going to talk about in today's newsletter.
Why?
👉🏼 Because you cannot set boundaries with other people if you don't first set boundaries with yourself.
When we learn to treat ourselves the way we want to be treated, something beautiful happens, we come into integrity with ourselves in a profound way:
Self honor
Self respect
Self empathy
Self value
There are often parts of us that contradict themselves, for instance:
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